I received an email from someone who will remain striclty annonymous asking for guidance from Babuji about marriage and Sahaj Marg. The answer HE gave is below with all names and details taken out to protect the identity of the person who asked the question as per their request.
"One of the great challenges of living the human life is marriage. On your planet maybe 50% of marriages fail. Why is this? Because people do not understand the true purpose of marriage- a good marriage should offer both partners the chance to advance spiritually as it offers the opportunities to learn precious spiritual lessons of love, compassion, kindness, loyalty, and self-discipline. Those people who marry thinking that their chosen partner will satisfy all of their dreams are destined for a huge disappointment.
In my own marriage i had many problems-i speak honestly when i say i found my beloved wife quite difficult at times and she did not understand me but my MASTER guided me to wisely accept every thing she said or did as a godly gift and this lesson helped me on my own spiritual journey and for that i am eternally grateful to her. Accept your wife as she is, flaws and all, for this is considered an act of spiritual love. Negative judgment is an ego device which divides people whereas acceptance is heartwarming and involves looking beyond any of your wifes weaknesses to the heart of her many strengths one example is her motherly love for your children.
You both should learn to appreciate each other and your own individual contributions to your relationship and household and by doing this you will be able to bond on a deeper level than couples who focus on what is missing from their relationships. For you this will involve acknowledging through words AND actions how much you love and value your wife. Be generous with your love, time, and attention for this a way of sharing your soul with another. These small acts will encourage love to blossom in your marriage.
You need to insulate your relationship with spiritual love by trying to understand what each other is experiencing when facing difficult or challenging times. Forgiving each other is one of the highest acts of spiritual love available as it creates a space in your hearts where love can bloom. When a husbad and wife forgive each other for making mistakes, they see the innocence in each other’s hearts.
I have stated my wish for Krishna to be the next leader of Sahaj Marg-his wife only starting her abhyas after marriage. Do not worry about being torn away from Sahaj Marg-this will never happen. When you are married and have a family you have to make sacrifices and you have to think of your family and live the grihastha life. All i ask is that you stick to the basic practice-morning meditation, evening cleaning and 9o'clock prayer. Attend satsanghs wherever possible but If you cannot attend Bhandaras do not punish yourself. You have a young family and need to work to look after them dearest son no matter where in the world you live i will always be in your heart and you MUST do what is best for your family. This is my humble request to you.
Your wife is confused about Sahaj Marg as she feels it is coming between you or dragging you away from her. Take the time to sit with her and talk. Be gentle and kind my son-never speak harshly to her. She feels worried, scared and she needs love. Slowly introduce her to Sahaj Marg-in turn this will help your relationship as you will be spending time together. Let her know that she is the most important person in your life and i will be watching over you and guiding you through your heart.
Babuji"
